A Filipina's Guide to Making the First Move (Love Zone or Friend Zone)

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As I've said in the previous post, there are only two kinds of possible responses after you've expressed yourself to him -- yes and no. There's also an in-between answer, but we'll get to that later.

If I am to refer to my personal experience, expressing myself to my crush eventually lead to him being my boyfriend. But for me, that was not the only cause -- it kinda helped that he said early on that since he experienced failure in courting girls many times over, he wanted to know how it feels like to be 'courted by a girl.' That kinda gave me the confidence boost to go ahead and pour my heart out to him.

However, just because you both feel the same way (and you guys have expressed them to each other) does not mean you have to be an item, stat! Sometimes you feel something for someone but you don't feel the need to be in a relationship just yet, or the other party feels that way. It's totally okay, and it will be if the guy (or you) respects your (or his) decision not to do so (props for doing that, by the way!). You guys may choose to maintain a mutual understanding between the two of you until you guys are ready to commit yourselves into a formal BF-GF relationship.

But if you guys are the kind who is totally ready for a relationship or the kind who hates that 'almost but not quite' kind of affair, then by all means go for it! And congratulations, you're finally in a relationship! :)

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