A Filipina's Guide to Making the First Move (Love Zone or Friend Zone)

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As I've said in the previous post, there are only two kinds of possible responses after you've expressed yourself to him -- yes and no. There's also an in-between answer, but we'll get to that later.

If I am to refer to my personal experience, expressing myself to my crush eventually lead to him being my boyfriend. But for me, that was not the only cause -- it kinda helped that he said early on that since he experienced failure in courting girls many times over, he wanted to know how it feels like to be 'courted by a girl.' That kinda gave me the confidence boost to go ahead and pour my heart out to him.

However, just because you both feel the same way (and you guys have expressed them to each other) does not mean you have to be an item, stat! Sometimes you feel something for someone but you don't feel the need to be in a relationship just yet, or the other party feels that way. It's totally okay, and it will be if the guy (or you) respects your (or his) decision not to do so (props for doing that, by the way!). You guys may choose to maintain a mutual understanding between the two of you until you guys are ready to commit yourselves into a formal BF-GF relationship.

But if you guys are the kind who is totally ready for a relationship or the kind who hates that 'almost but not quite' kind of affair, then by all means go for it! And congratulations, you're finally in a relationship! :)

What if things don't go your way? Click 'Read More' to find out more

Eponine of Les Miserables aka the poster girl for unrequited love. photo credit here

What if you've been turned down -- either by saying 'no' or by saying 'I want us to be just friends' (oh, that dreaded 'friend zone!')? A lot of literature have been written about dealing with love not being returned to you; but IMHO, it's as simple as moving on with your life and think that at least you did not leave your feelings unexpressed...

I know, I know, it's hard to move on from that painful experience because somehow, you've invested feelings towards the other person and it's pretty hard if he does not love you back. Sad part is, you cannot do anything to change the way he feels (unless it does change eventually and finally see you in a different light).

But the best part is, you can treat it as a lesson for you to learn -- at the very least, you knew how to express yourself to someone (not to mention getting yourself some thick skin just to do that), and the traits of a guy that you tend to draw yourself into.

Truth be told, there's no hard and fast rule when it comes to ways on how to move on from unrequited love. One thing's for sure, though -- once you do, you'll find that loving yourself more is the first step to finding your true love. And expressing them will be easier.

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And so that ends our Valentine's Month series. Hope you guys enjoyed it and learned a thing or two about finally making that move towards the man of your dreams. Remember, you'll never get anything if you don't do something about it. :)

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